Valentine’s Day: The Best (& Worst) Holiday On Campus

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  Are you ready? Do you know what I’m talking about? It happens tomorrow. It’s Valentine’s Day. The day of love. And while it may not be the biggest thing on your radar… it is for many (if not most) of our students. Valentine’s Day is one of those feast or famine kinds of holidays… [...]

Overcoming A Culture of Instant Gratification

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  There seems to be a lot working against the (slow) development of healthy relationships today. We live in an instant society. We want things and we want them now. And yet, most of us can remember a time not too long ago, when things weren’t so “instant.” That’s not the case for the majority [...]

Healthy God-Centered Sexuality

We have all heard the word “chastity.”  I’m not sure about you, but the word that immediately follows that in my head is…”belt.” And I’m pretty sure that belt is made of iron…and has a rusty key. FUN! The question we discuss below is one of my favorites.  It’s something that won’t have a concrete [...]

The Post Which Must Not Be Named

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This past November I delivered a discussion series at Northwestern College which I have shared many other times before, but this time was different. This would be the last time I would feel comfortable promoting this discussion online by name. I now refer to it online as “The Discourse Which Must Not Be Named.” The [...]

What Every College-Aged Woman Needs to Know

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[Adapted with permission from Northfield Publishing from chapter ten of Girls Uncovered: New Research on What America’s Sexual Culture does to Young Women (Northfield Publishing, 2012) by Joe McIlhaney, Jr., MD, and Freda McKissic Bush, MD with Stan Guthrie. Dr. McIlhaney and Dr. Bush are board-certified obstetrician/gynecologists with daughters of their own.] When it comes [...]

Dealing With Sexual Shame

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In the Fall semester, I met with four different women who each had woken to discover that they had sex the previous night, but had no memory of it. In each case, the women had been drinking. In two cases, a date-rape drug may have been used. In one case, the sexual partner was a [...]

Cohabitation Conundrums

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Joy Eggerichs blogs regularly at loveandrespectNOW.com where she answers her readers questions about faith and relationships in her Ask Joy feature. This question comes from a concerned parent about cohabitation. Ask Joy: How can we respond to young people who want to live together before marriage? I am referring to my son and other friends [...]