When I think of July, I think of this…
That’s not me — and I’ve never been to this location — but it’s still what I think of when I think of July.
Well, for starters it’s typically so hot and steamy here in the greater Nashville area that if I’m outside I prefer to be someplace wet — where I can actually enjoy being outside.
But I also like the peace and relaxation this image evokes. It speaks of a slower pace of life, and inner rest, that I don’t think enough of us experience very often.
My name is Guy — and I’m a recovering perfectionist.
It’s been approximately 12 years since my then new bride called me out on my condition — primarily because I was beginning to impose it on her, and our young marriage. (Thanks Hunny!)
It probably took me another year or two to fully understand and embrace my imperfect reality of constantly striving to be perfect — at which point I officially entered into unofficial recovery.
I began to consciously tell myself that it was OK to not be the best, to not be perfect in everything I said and did.
Many times in ministry, especially college ministry, you feel like you are walking alone. Just drifting along, trying to survive, and isolated from others in ministry.
College Ministry has been described as the Navy Seals of ministry — It’s very hard work and no one ever gives you credit when it goes well (plus, some people erroneously call us Youth Ministers, a pet peeve of mine).
I am surrounded by a great church staff, but they often fail to grasp what college ministry is or have the tools to push me in my goals and desires.
It’s the dreaded college triangle. If you choose a social life and sleep, you sacrifice good grades. If you choose good grades and sleep, you give up the social life. If you choose a social life and good grades, then you won’t be getting sleep anytime soon.
The moment I thought I had the college triangle figured out, I began my life as a youth and college minister while still in school. At the age of 22, I was a senior in college, engaged to my high school sweet heart, and began serving as the new youth and college director. My college triangle now turned into a rectangle. So what do I choose now? Social life? Good grades? Sleep? Or ministry? What would be sacrificed because of my decision? These very real questions began to haunt my everyday life.
I haven’t been to work in over a week now. It’s because late last Thursday (the 8th), my wife gave birth to our fifth child (yes, 5th).
Lailie Grace (pronounce Lay-lee) is now one week old and has given me good reason to completely alter my work schedule for the rest of the fall term.
It may be that the fifth time’s the charm when it comes to learning how to take a paternity leave.
No, not really.
It sounds nice though, doesn’t it?
Especially as the beginning of the school year chaos begins to subside, and we find ourselves with a little more room to breathe.
Actually, I just wanted to communicate why you might notice a lack of new posts over the next week or so.
Preparation for the next Blogathon are now underway!
The Art of Self Leadership Blogathon will be a chance for us to talk together about our need to lead self — while faithfully living out our call to lead others. As leaders, we often put our own needs aside in order to focus on those around us. But in order for us to be the effective, healthy, and durable leaders we desire to be, we need to be wise, intentional, and strategic with regard to how we manage our time, establish and protect different boundaries, approach our work, and faithfully live out our call to serve others.
This time will be a chance to explore new ideas and best practices as it relates to our service as faithful leaders, as well as to engage in online conversation about some of the challenges or struggles we face in this area of Self Leadership.
The beginning of the school year — it’s one of our busiest times of the year.
So many students to meet, so many to reconnect with.
It’s a season in which life seems to move at an incredibly pace — nearly impossible to keep up with — or so it would seem.
Yet I was recently reminded that while this might be true for many of us, it isn’t true for everyone.
I’ve got a friend I’ve been visiting in the hospital the past few weeks. In my visits with him I’ve been reminded that time moves slower there. Much slower.
You may already know the top issues for your incoming freshman, but Dr. Tim Clydesdale has actually asked them. And in a workshop at this year’s National Collegiate Summit he shared seven common themes uncovered by his interviews with college-bound high school grads.
The #1 theme? Navigating relationships (making friends, finding a boy/girlfriend, getting along with roommates) and managing gratifications (particularly sex and partying, hence connecting gratifications to relationships).
When I was in college, I went rafting with some friends. We were coasting down a medium-size rapid when, all of a sudden, we dropped about four feet on a dip that we didn’t see coming.
Falling off my tube, I remember having to swim upstream to get back onto my float that had become lodged between a rock and a hard place.
Tired from the struggle, I remember wondering if the experience was worth it at all.
Friendship is a diminishing of distance between people. from Life p. 312
In my work with students, the two refrains I hear again and again go like this:
1) I want more friends
2) Community is hard
Who doesn’t want more friends? Certainly a major reason students attend school is to ﬁnd connection, meet new people, and develop long lasting friendships.
But, community is hard. Most of the students I work with attend Boston University, which presents a unique environment. The school is embedded into Boston, stretching across two miles of the city, while running parallel to the Charles River.
From going to class, balancing studying and socializing, maintaining relationships and dealing with financial burdens, today’s college student has a great deal on his or her mind. Take a look at just some of the issues college students may be concerned about on a daily basis.
Offered by: Muhammad Saleem