Although I’ve not been too terribly active on social media this summer, I’m preparing to power down for a few weeks. Maybe you’ve done this before — and maybe you’ve just thought about it. But I find that if I don’t do this from time to time that I experience two different things: I […]
As the quieter months of the summer begin, how will you utilize the time and space that you have? More specifically, and less obvious, how will you engage the practice of silence? With much of the “noise” that makes up our normal days while our students are around during the academic year now removed […]
What makes for a good book? I mean, what makes for a really good book? You know there’s a difference — but have you ever been able to pinpoint what differentiates the good books from the really good books — for you? Is it the writing style of the author? Is it the way […]
Vocation. For most of us who work with college students, we’ve long understood this word to describe a sense of calling in one’s life. We ourselves believe that God has called us to come alongside college students during a very formative season of life — and help them, in large part, to discern their own […]
Maybe you see what I see, and hear what I hear, when you engage with students around campus. Time and time again I encounter students who appear stuck and sound hopeless as it relates to their current situation and set of circumstances. It may be the week they’ve been having. It may be the […]
I’m increasingly reminded of just how broken our world is. Even within our Christian circles. Even within our Christian ministries. The powerful shaping influence of our culture continues to make inroads into the ways we think and lead and love. And what’s true for us is most definitely true for our students. With all of […]
I heard this passage in church yesterday and thought of us — and the work we do with students. I was reminded of how much our work this year will involve waiting — on God, on students, and on the active work of God in any student’s life. We are called to do our work […]
“Is your ministry geared more toward Christians or non-Christians?” If I drank a Red Bull every time I was asked this question, I’d be more sleepless than a first-semester freshman during orientation. The question exposes the prevailing assumption among many Christians that believers and non-believers are fundamentally different and have different needs. But 14 years […]
“Now I would remind you, brothers, of the gospel I preached to you…” – 1 Corinthians 15:1 How do you help college students fight their sin? As a Christian campus minister, this is a question I have often asked as I’ve seen the deep struggles that students have shared with me. Many feel helpless and […]
How does this fit with your own sense of calling? What about this do you struggle with?
My name is Guy — and I’m a recovering perfectionist.
It’s been approximately 12 years since my then new bride called me out on my condition — primarily because I was beginning to impose it on her, and our young marriage. (Thanks Hunny!)
It probably took me another year or two to fully understand and embrace my imperfect reality of constantly striving to be perfect — at which point I officially entered into unofficial recovery.
I began to consciously tell myself that it was OK to not be the best, to not be perfect in everything I said and did.